tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24017605513577431252024-02-07T09:00:03.816-08:00Spark StoriesInterventions to keep your life up and running!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-59569179741611986132011-09-12T11:13:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:25:04.283-07:00Tips for enhancing your resume!So, let me know if this sounds familiar. Either you’ve decided that you want a new job or someone else has decided it for you. First few days, you try to get it together. And then you pull out your old resume. Fun times, right? Exactly how you imagined your Monday...then Tuesday...then Wednesday...Then maybe "I’ll just do this next week".<br />
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OK, so then now back to Monday....Your papers are stacked, your laptop is charged, you’re geared up and ready to go. OR...maybe not, but either way, thought I'd share a few pointers.<br />
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<strong>1. Ditch the "Objective" and use a headline instead</strong><br />
Doesn’t “Highly-qualified writer and trainer, specializing in leadership and career development" sound so much better than: “Seeking a position where I can use my strong writing, training, and interpersonal skills”? Your headline is like a preview of coming attractions – the spotlight that helps draw people in.<br />
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<strong>2.Create impact with a strong list of "Highlights"</strong><br />
Again, you’re selling what makes you unique, and what better way than painting a picture? Maybe you’ve created new programs or spearheaded some really huge projects. Maybe you’re known for quota-shattering sales. Maybe you were promoted in less than a year. Maybe you have a particular track record or quality. It all depends on the position you're targeting. Managers, for example, may mention strategies (or solutions they delivered) that improved or helped feed the bottom line. Or perhaps programs or methods they developed to mentor or inspire their employees. The key is for them to see you as a specialist - someone who can stand out and shine, while also being part of their team!<br />
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<strong>3. Make sure your format is clean and consistent</strong><br />
Most recruiters scan through hundreds, maybe thousands, of resumes a day. So it’s important to make their life easier. Whatever format you use, be consistent. <br />
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<strong>4. List the accomplishments you acheived in each position</strong><br />
This is extremely important – because the thing is most candidates (at least the ones that pass the machine) are presumably qualified for the job – at least they are on paper. It’s expected that you can all do the work. The question is: Why you and not him or her? What unique brand do you bring to the table? What makes you become the buzz in the office (in a good way)? In other words: How can you help keep the ship up and running - and relieve a little stress from the crew?<br />
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<strong>5. Highlight your overall impact, not just your worth to a particular company</strong><br />
Yes. You may list your work history, but make sure it translates across companies. If you use a method exclusive to a particular company, be sure to include the contribution or impact you delivered. For example, if you say: “Conducted 500 DSR reviews (yes, I just made that up),” that might not mean as much as saying “Directly impacted internal and external performance, conducting over 500 DSR (product efficiency) reviews, significantly enhancing customer and client satisfaction and increasing operational efficiency". Instead of looking like you did what you were told – just like everyone else – it highlights your ability to make bold contributions.<br />
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<strong>6. Don’t be unarmed by your "demons"</strong><br />
If you’re worried about something, address it. For example, if you’re worried about ageism, attack the likely root of the problem (not your age, but their perception of it). Maybe they think you lack new and innovative ideas. Maybe they’re worried about your comfort with technology. This may also apply for job gaps. They might wonder if you can hit the ground running or if you've lost a little bit of your edge. This can also be addressed. When I lost a year for medical reasons, I highlighted my involvment with groups, fundraising, and events related to Crohns and Colitis. I also did freelance resume writing and attended workshops and telephone seminars. Whatever the gap or the fear of perception, build in accomplishments that help prove them wrong. If they're not wrong, start finding new ways to change that. Maybe you can start your own blog or do something that will show your initiative (take a class, volunteer to help sharpen your skills). Also, as for the age thing, and this may seem like a contridiction, there’s no need to put your graduation date, if it happened over 20 years ago.<br />
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<strong>7. Consider a visual CV or direct link to your LinkedIn Profile</strong><br />
People like making connections. Instead of just submitting a resume, consider creating a visual CV – or online resume. You can include the link in your paper resume. It can include everything from an introduction video to samples of the work that you do – essentially your online portfolio. Check out: www.visualcv.com<br />
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<strong>8. Pay attention to key words and phrases</strong><br />
One thing about keywords: the machines have gotten hip to the game. You have to do more than throw in a few words. You actually have to use them in context. They can tell if you’ve been doing it for 1 year or 25 years. Pay attention to the context you're using.<br />
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<strong>9. Show your understanding of the industry you're in</strong><br />
One great way to do this is to check out some trade magazines. Also check out groups and associations in your industry. Most of them have their own websites, and most have their own group (page) on LinkedIn. Start to pay attention to topics, conversations, and skills that customers or employers seem to like. This is a great way to start jogging your memory - to remind yourself of what you have done. Another great resource is continuing education catalogues. Course descriptions have their own hidden treasure. They not only showcase common industry terms, practices and innovations, but they do a great job of putting it into words. Again, become familiar with the language and terms. You'll often find a name for a skill you've been using, giving you and your brand extra polish.<br />
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<strong>10. Keep in mind that you're talking to people!</strong><br />
I know that I mentioned machines, but don't forget about warm-blooded people. Don't strip your resume or yourself of personality. If you're an advid rock climber, include it. If you run a marathon every fall, highlight it. It adds variation and depth. It also helps you to maintain your life balance. And perhaps it leads to a program you can bring to the company - a great way to position yourself as a leader, even if you already are!<br />
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...OK, so these are just a few tips. Feeling better? Relieved? Or perhaps you're still staring at papers. I hear you! Enhancing your resume is challenging. But here’s the good news: I am also a resume writer, with quite a wide range of experience. So, of course you can do it all on your own, or you can call me and we can work on it together! I can also walk you through some interview strategies and ways to start expanding your network. It's a simple step that can make your life easier! Visit www.innersparkcoaching.com to request a free 30-minute consultation.<br />
<strong></strong>Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-73126858578880926812011-09-02T11:46:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:36:32.924-07:00Your Life – Your Career - Your Business!It’s been a year since my husband finished business school, yet somehow it all seems so vivid. The binders and textbooks. The late nights and networking socials. Quite a bit of it rubbed off on me. So much so that half way into his second year, I decided to start my own business. It still seems kind of ironic. But I guess it all made me think: what does doing “business” really mean?<br />
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I once had this image of confining grey suits –everyone marching in unison – focusing only on money. And that I was sure wasn’t me! But then I saw it from a slightly different angle. I thought about the leadership aspect – the innovation – the beauty of defining a vision. Then it didn’t all seem so distant. Think about it for a second. What if you saw your life and career as a business? What if you were the CEO – the executive in charge of your choices? You develop your very own vision. You build a network you inspire to support you. You take steps that determine your success. You find "consultants" when you need new solutions. How often do we do that? How often do we put ourselves in the driver’s seat (that whole "I'm not a businessman - I'm a business...man" - or woman as it may be :)? I mean, we accept a job offer. We do "other duties as assigned". But how often do we set our own agenda? I’m not talking about ways to manipulate people, but a clear vision of what we want to achieve. Are you looking to learn something? Are you hoping to make a connection? Maybe you’re just curious and want to challenge yourself. Regardless of your goals or intentions, do you see yourself as a strong leader? How much influence do you have in your life? What actions are you taking everyday...and towards what purpose? <br />
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Let’s take it to a whole other level. Let’s talk about the money for a second. Regardless of the value you place on it, we all need it to make certain things happen. So let’s consider what you’re worth. I’m not talking dollars and cents…at least not yet. I’m talking more about your performance currency. I’m talking about the talents that you have and ways those talents have impacted other people. Ways those talents can help build new connections or networks or opportunities (for yourself and for other people). Think about it like a resume. In each relationship – in each encounter – in each job you’ve ever had - what have you brought to the table? What new need did you strive to fulfill? What improvement were you able to make? What new things were you able to learn? Think about your life as a career – what’s different because you have been here? How can you grow and expand in the future? Starting to get the picture? All those things – whether successes or failures help to determine your stock value… But let me digress for a second, because I don’t want to be misunderstood. I’m not just talking about huge gestures or things that got you recognition. I’m talking about any action that demonstrates your best self – consoling a friend, setting a good example, creating a solution that served other people. All those things make you indispensible. They are your value proposition. They become like a part of your brand. “Oh Mary, yeah she’s amazing. I mean you can always rely on her. She’s one of the most creative people I know. She's always coming up with terrific ideas.” Think about what kind of message YOU send. Do you seek out and embrace opportunities? Do you change things you think could be better? I’ll be honest; at times I lose my way – especially in building my business. Other people seem more qualified or reputable. Their message seems deeper and more effective than mine, and that’s when I jump in the back seat. But the thing is – when I do that – that’s when I get really stressed out. I kick myself and then I get frustrated. How could I sell myself short when I really could have done something big? <br />
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Ask yourself that sometimes. Do I really see myself as a leader? Do I trust that I can make choices or do I look for my choices to be made for me? It’s ok to have teachers and mentors and guides, but you can decide what connects with your values. You can decide what you’re going to do with the gifts you’ve been given. You can be a leader in your life. You can become your own business - create your own empire. However you run it. Whatever values or culture you adopt. Whatever resources you pull in. You decide the message you send to the world. You have the choice to get back in the driver’s seat or to let someone else lead your life for you. Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-24122585395105214322011-07-28T07:30:00.001-07:002011-09-27T15:04:28.544-07:00Stepping out and starting overFlashback about 12 years ago… <br />
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They wheeled me down into the lobby – the steel pressing into my back. After 6 months of poking and prodding, they told me it was time to go home. My colon was gone – my life changed forever, and now it was time to start over?*!# I wish I could describe it more clearly – the feeling of gut wrenching fear – the anxiety that rushed through my body. Ever felt that? You get used to things being one way and now all the tables are twisted. All these questions start to run through your mind. Your heart starts to jump out your chest. And then the temptations set in. You don’t want to get out of bed. Your start hearing voices of doubt. And this is your brand new beginning? But then one day you’re faced with a choice: you can keep feeling down in the dumps OR you can get up, get out and do something. For me, it started with an intervention – with the ball being placed in my court. So what about you? Of course it’s a long road ahead, but how about you take the first step! Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-24083483476587408362011-07-14T10:36:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:24:37.576-07:00Looking for a quiet place?So today I pulled out some Take 6. For those of you who aren’t familiar, they’re an amazing a cappella gospel group with a beautiful/universal message. Anyway, after 2 weeks of battling bronchitis, losing my voice off and on, and a headache with a ton of persistence, I needed a boost and a break. <br />
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There’s also a beautiful YouTube video of them performing the song in honor of the Tsunami victims in Japan: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViqpSnNYDDQ&feature=related<br />
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"A Quiet Place"<br />
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There is a quiet place<br />
Far from the rapid pace<br />
Where God can soothe my troubled mind<br />
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Sheltered by tree and flow´r<br />
There in my quiet hour<br />
With Him my cares are left behind<br />
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Whether a garden small<br />
Or on a mountain tall<br />
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New strength and courage there I find<br />
Then from this quiet place<br />
I go prepared to face<br />
A new day with love for all mankind<br />
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Hopefully it helps you the way that it's helped me today :)<br />
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With peace and love,<br />
KeishaKeisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-44906364402227624042011-06-30T11:59:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:05:56.908-07:00STOP EVERYTHING YOU'RE DOING - RIGHT NOW!Here's a quick mid-day relaxation exercise...<br />
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How would it feel if you just took a second? - a few moments to relax and let go? Releasing the strain in your shoulders - just enjoy where you're standing (or sitting) right now (if it's hectic, walk away for a moment). Empty all the thoughts in your mind. Take in a deep breath and exhale. Let it all out: the noise, the stress, the anxiety. Let it all flow like air through your fingers. Now allow yourself to build up a smile – ear to ear, lip to nose - a smile for each gift you've been given. Imagine a place where your heart can do cartwheels - a place to let out a big 'haaaaaaaaaaa'. Let your body and your mind fill with energy. Feel the wind as it rests on your shoulders … And now let me ask you a question: what’ll be different because you were born? What passion are you holding inside? What’s keeping you from letting it out? What connections could you be out there making? What steps could you take to be better...for you and the people around you?<br />
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From this moment … In this space, it’s time to move from “I can’t” to “It's Possible” It’s time to embrace and acknowledge your power. No matter how high the obstacle is, you have the wings that you need to take flight. Be bold. Be different. Be a gift to the people around you. Be the person that you know YOU to be! Today is your giant step forward.<br />
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Here's to enjoying your journey ;o)Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-15443322495837591702011-06-21T09:15:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:41:28.926-07:00Maybe the problem..and solution is YOU!You’ve talked about the time…the money…the effort. But now let’s look at the real reason: <br />
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While you’re down there your mind feels constricted. It’s tight and your body can't move – you feel like you’re trapped in a dungeon. Your outlook turns bleak, depression sets in – all hope seems to fade into darkness. You ask yourself: ‘why this is happening?’ ‘Why is everyone moving faster than me? ‘ You’re convinced it’s a big ole conspiracy. There’s a party and you just weren’t invited. All of this with your head in the sand. Somehow you don’t see it. Somehow you keep sinking. You’re like the scarecrow from the movie “The Wiz” surrounded by a mean flock of crows - your arms loosely wound in a harness. So what’s keeping you from getting YOU down? What’s got you down there with your head in the sand? Better yet, what would happen if you just made a move – nothing drastic – just got out there to test the waters a bit? Of course it’ll be cold at first. But give it some time to warm up. Start with your toes, then your heels, then your feet. Then take a big leap to the wall. What would that feel like? How would it feel to make the call - To go out there and make some connections? How would it feel to say yes just this once? You’re not too busy. It’s not too hard. You’ll find a way to work out the money. How would it feel just to give it a try? To step out there and consider the truth: 'Yes I’m scared out of my mind, but today I'm going to take back my power. Today I have the strength to acknowledge that the problem I've been facing is ME! I have everything I need to move forward. All that's left now is to get out my way!'Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-55223615160515641592011-06-13T07:19:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:27:13.728-07:00Life...is all about expressionSimple enough, right? Just wake up, go out there and shine. No matter how blah or resistant you feel, simply dig in your heels and keep going. Easy, right? Nothing to it? No reason that you can’t make it happen … right? So why are you still standing there? Why are your feet stuck in neutral?<br />
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Let’s run through a few quick scenarios:<br />
<br />1. I plan to go out there and get it. I just need to figure out how.<br />
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2. I don’t have the strength to keep going. I've been through enough crap already.<br />
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3. This problem is too big for me. I don’t have the power the change it. <br />
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4. I’m just not supposed to be happy. At least not right now in this moment.<br />
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5. I feel like I just don't belong. Everyone seems like they're doing it better.<br />
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6. I just feel so lost and confused. It’s easier to hide in a corner.<br />
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7. Everything will change if I do it. I don’t want to face the unknown.<br />
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Ok, that’s enough. Are any of these thoughts ringing true? Do you feel them as you stand there in silence? Well let’s journey back for a second.<br />
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1. OK, so you’re thinking about it, but how close are you now to paralysis (by analysis)? What would change if you just started moving – if you just took a leap and jumped in? Instead of focusing of what you should do, maybe it's time to just BE - brave, bold, courageous. Get out there and start to discover.<br />
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2. A long journey can make you exhausted, but at times it is just the beginning – intense training just before the big race. So where can you plug yourself in? What can help you to recharge your energy? Prayer? Exercise? Calling up a positive friend? What fuel can you use to get motivated?<br />
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3. Sometimes it can seem overwhelming – like two thousand pound weights on your shoulders. So how can you lighten your load? What can you do to chip at it? Nothing huge – a slight rev to set your wheels back in motion.<br />
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4. Your happiness is all up to you. It's not about having the best but embracing what you already have, including the choice to be happy. <br />
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5. Perhaps someone IS doing it better. But why is that holding you back? Be inspired by the trail that they're blazing. Then take a deep breath and start running your race.<br />
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6. There’s nothing in the corner but darkness – all the bad thoughts you have in your head. While it may start to feel warm and cozy, it eventually swallows you whole. <br />
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7. Ok so you and your world just might change, but why does that have to be bad? You may not know what’s going to happen but please know that you do have a choice: you can raise up your voice and make music or keep feeling like your life is on mute.<br />
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No matter how you may choose to look at it, your expression will determine your path. You can wait for your life to start happening or splash color to create your own light!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-405518823224684162011-06-02T09:29:00.000-07:002011-09-27T15:08:15.188-07:00Eventually lightning will strike!Sometimes you get caught in a storm. The rain starts to pour – the thunder soon follows. You’re left standing there in the darkness. Ever been there before? You wake up and wonder- ‘why bother?’ It’s been months, maybe years now and nothing is going your way. The answers seem dark and elusive…I’m sure you’ve been there before. Maybe you’re out there right now. So the question is what should you do?<br />
<a name='more'></a> Well the other night, I was watching a special…OK I’ll just come out with it, it was a special about the life of Joan Rivers. If you’re anything like me a lot of assumptions come up – a load mouth comedian, often quite crass – always with something to say. But this story went a little bit deeper. It showed the journey of a woman who hangs in there. A woman who pushes just to stay in the game. More than once she was faced with rock bottom, but something inside her kept moving. Then at one point the camera turns to a close friend of hers who said something incredibly powerful: “lightning will eventually strike (in a good way), if you're willing to stand out in the rain”. Think about that for a moment. Think about a time when your hope started fading – when it felt like your heart was ripped from you. There you are standing out in the rain. There you are getting totally drenched. The calls just aren’t coming. You somehow feel stuck and alone. You wonder and you wait but still nothing. But then think about this: think about a time you kept moving. You didn’t retreat into shelter. You didn’t walk away from the pain. You reached out and embraced opportunities – you found ways to plant your feet on the ground. Eventually, something starts happening. Eventually you see a new light. It may not be as bright as you hoped for, but it’s brighter than that spot in the corner….This is what happened to Joan. Even through years of rejection and judgment she kept walking through the storms and the rain. And eventually a light peered through the end of the tunnel. She not only won Celebrity Apprentice, but revived her once dying career. The offers started pouring in. She was applauded for her strength and tenacity (even by the people who judge her). Sure to many she’s still a loud mouth comedian, but she’s also a woman who will never give up – a woman for whom the lightening will strike - just like it can for you - if you're willing to stand out (and push through) in the rain!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-3798740354837846572011-05-24T12:25:00.000-07:002011-06-13T09:06:20.573-07:00Growing and expanding your business: A few helpful tips to considerSally Field hit the nail on the head: “You like me…you really, really like me”. It’s the reason that she won the award. So how does this apply to your business? I was on a networking call a few days ago (try my best stay on top of what’s happening :-). Anyway, the person was sharing some tips: how to grow and expand your new business: basically how to get people to like (and buy from) you. The main focus was new business owners, particularly those focused on selling themselves. She also touched on re-vamping your business.<br /><br />Now I admit, there are times when I hang up mid-call, but this one was remarkably helpful. So I thought that I’d share it with you, along with a few extra insights.<br /><br />Here goes…<br /><br />1. <strong>Work on defining and refining your focus: </strong>Who are you talking to? What problem are you solving? How are you doing it differently? Pay attention. Get out there. Try it on to see if it fits. Experience the people and places around you. See what it brings up for you.<br /><br />2. <strong>Develop your own unique message.</strong> What mantra is your business built on? What new insights do have to share? For example: My message is all about moving you forward. Using your own creativity and strengths, you have the power to enhance what is possible, even when you feel hope has faded – even when you feel you’re too tired. No matter how many roadblocks you’re facing, there are ways to transform your experience!<br /><br />3. <strong>Focus on creating relationships. </strong> See everyone as a connector or possible client. Get them to know…then like…then possibly buy from or partner with you. Get comfortable sharing or talking about your business. Start noticing how people react. Consider how their reaction can help you to grow. Also consider how you can help them. Lift others as you’re climbing your rope. <br /><br />4. <strong>See each encounter as a 2 –sided coin. </strong>It’s not about you going out and collecting, but finding ways to create a win-win. <br /><br />5. <strong>Find 10 people who you admire and then reach out to them</strong>. Make it a month long project. If they’re local, set up a meeting for lunch (coffee or tea, if you’re on a budget). Find out what made them successful. Share with them the path that you’re on.<br /><br />6. <strong>Keep stretching yourself to build confidence.</strong> See your fears as a new chance to grow. <br /><br />7. <strong>Revel in the idea of failure.</strong> I know it sounds strange, but it’s the best way to master your craft and uncover your true inner talents.<br /><br />8. <strong>Weave in some time for reflection.</strong> Everyone will have some advice. You’ll start drowning in great information. Give yourself time to digest it and fit it in where you think it belongs.<br /><br />9. <strong>Create your own signature system.</strong> This is a lot like creating a culture. What will your clients experience? How will they feel while they’re with you? How is that different from what they can get elsewhere?<br /><br />10. <strong>Figure out how you’re going to market.</strong> This is all about knowing your strengths and considering the resources you have. This is also a great place to think about help. Consider hiring a Virtual Assistant (they generally cost about 10 bucks an hour). If the overhead seems too steep right now, consider focusing on a particular project.<br /><br />11. <strong>Consider ways you can leverage your time.</strong> A big part of business is money and how to make it without losing your mind. Think about creating a product – an extension of your signature service. This is something you create only once but you can duplicate for continuous profit. Also consider bartering (exchanges services) or hiring out - copywriting, your website, etc. As multi-talented as you might be, try not to do it alone.<br /><br />12. <strong>Find someone to hold you accountable.</strong> All of these efforts are great, but ideas fade if you stop taking action. As a Transition/Empowerment coach, this is the pearl I provide for my clients. I not only help them to dig deeper but to follow through on the goals that they set. There are also coaches focused on the specific dilemma you’re facing: Building your business model, sales and social media, overall business development. There are dozens of resources to help you and a lot of them offer free products (a blog, newsletter, e-books, etc).<br /><br />13. <strong>Quick caveat. Starting (or expanding) a business is a brand new horizon. Advice is great, but working it in isn’t easy. Even in the business of moving people forward, I constantly need a dose of support – kicks in the butt as I go face my fears – inspiration for the times I get stuck. Having a dream and a plan is exciting, but building a circle to uplift you is priceless!</strong>Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-57708330149322172172011-05-19T13:04:00.000-07:002011-05-21T08:30:50.161-07:00Creating your new and bold world: A story of full transformation!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeyQg5H4FmCZxBf_inDahyP3Gt4P0sW2Bb2LlOKbFdbWJCbd7n6H46702l50LDXT8d_fJ6xQXTAuXYLzvlKYxLf5XCmKQzpEu02qjlTe_d-0MFtbyfa-BkfVAqjskmgwMK3kykNgq7ho0T/s1600/Ms.+Hughes.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 191px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeyQg5H4FmCZxBf_inDahyP3Gt4P0sW2Bb2LlOKbFdbWJCbd7n6H46702l50LDXT8d_fJ6xQXTAuXYLzvlKYxLf5XCmKQzpEu02qjlTe_d-0MFtbyfa-BkfVAqjskmgwMK3kykNgq7ho0T/s320/Ms.+Hughes.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5608521166074376242" /></a><br />To me, she has always been beautiful. Always put together - never with a hair out of place. She’s the kind of woman who is always invited – the one who always seems to light up a room. But recently her story evolved. She decided it was time for some changes. So…she signed up for an exercise class (still embracing her “big girls” are bold women sexy ;). At first she told family and friends. But soon, the patterns had become more apparent: regular postings on Facebook with new habits and outlooks to follow. She started to explore her relationships; she started to create opportunities (the epitome of a strong single mother). As I mentioned, she has always been beautiful, but now she’s becoming a swan. It’s clear that her whole life is shifting. She’s eating differently. She’s found new ways to replenish her spirit. She’s creating a whole new community – a circle who she has inspired and who in turn are inspiring her. Now it’s more than just taking off weight (though she’s lost over 70 pounds :-). It’s more than just exercise classes (now including boot camps and dance and performances :-). She has started a journey of peace. She is feeding and revealing her purpose. When I wake up I look out for her postings – the story of her ups and her downs – the status of her light and her darkness. Every day she creates an adventure. Every day she reveals her new power! <br /><br />(Inspired by one of my best friends, Ms. Marnell Hughes - Keep it moving, girl! You continue to make us all proud!)Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-25876741050403011552011-05-11T08:11:00.000-07:002011-05-11T10:05:52.461-07:00Using your strengths as a springboardIf you’ve ever been in an interview before, you know that the question is coming. You wait for it. You read a few tips and some articles. You know exactly how you’re going to respond. “So what would you say are your strengths?” Of course after smiling you answer. But what does it all really mean? Were you really even telling the truth? Were you connecting with what you were saying or telling them what they wanted to hear?<br /><br />OK, that’s a lot of questions. So strike all of that. What I’m really asking is do you know what your strengths really are? Forget about the interview for a second. Think about the strengths that you hold in your heart. I’m not just talking about what you do well, because those things may drain you entirely. You can be amazing at something you hate. I’m talking about the things that you do that help feed you. Maybe you’re not even good at it yet, but when you do it your heart starts to open. It’s those moments when you feel most alive. What are those things in your life?<br /><br />I just finished reading a book, “The Truth About You: Your Secret to Success”. One of the exercises starts with a simple prompt: “I feel strong when …” If you have a chance this week, pull out a note pad and pencil. Carry it around with you. When you do something that makes you feel strong, write it down.<br /><br />For example: I feel strong when I help people to embrace their true talent…OR I feel strong when I experience something that opens my mind…<br /><br />As you write, start to notice the pattern. What do you gravitate to? How could these strengths find a place in your life: your work, your personal relationships, the things that you do to wind down? Think about the thematic qualities. Maybe you absolutely love helping people – maybe a specific group or type of people. Maybe you love sharing a particular story or lesson you’ve learned. Maybe you love creating new things – meeting new people. Maybe you love diversity and change in your life. Use what you see as a springboard. What can you do (or where could you go) for these strengths to show up? How could this change how you’re living? Sometimes we feel like we know where we’re going, until we unveil what our strengths really are.Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-61173673973674548592011-05-09T11:43:00.000-07:002011-05-17T01:45:55.948-07:00Defusing your stressAs a habit I tend to stress out. I hear it. Feel it. And let the thought of it build up inside me. Most times I eventually catch it, but often I allow it to fester. So why am I sharing this? I guess because it's something that a lot of us do. We either imagine the worst that could happen or shy away to disarm our success. At some point we start to feel trapped. We feel like the walls will start crumbling. No matter how many deep breaths we take, the whole weight of it starts taking over.<br /><br />So then what? Should we resolve to: oh well this stuff happens? Not sure I have an answer to that, but here’s something that helped me today.<br /><br />1. Examine your emotional attachment. Think about what it reminds you of. Maybe a time in your past. Maybe something that you’ve always feared happening. Follow your mind for a moment. Where is it taking you? Is it filled with the worst case scenario? Why? Be honest with yourself. What value do you feel being threatened? What is it you’re trying to avoid?<br /><br />2. Take out the bad for a moment. OK, things could surely go haywire, but then again maybe – just maybe - they won’t. Maybe it’s a new opportunity. Maybe this time something has changed – even if it’s just your perspective. It’s that whole hope for the best expect the worst philosophy. If you balance the good with the possible bad, your mind will embrace opportunities.<br /><br />3. Address all of your ‘what if’s’ head on. Life isn’t perfect. Things do tend to jump off at times. There’s no need to throw sugar on it. The question is: what might you do? If that happens, how might you react? If the thought is well…angry, pissed off etc. OK. But what if you reacted differently? What if you shielded your button? What if you changed your direction? You project that you will feel one way, but what if you changed your perspective? What if you considered the source? How would that possibly change things?<br /><br />4. Try breaking it down. If it seems too big then maybe it is. Again be honest with what you are feeling. Maybe you just need to break up the pieces - step by step – one day at a time. Don’t allow all the chaos to flood you!<br /><br />5. Listen to yourself. Discomfort is there for a reason. It comes with its own unique message. The key is getting to know who you are and why you react how you do. What about this makes you anxious? What about it is making you stressed? Again, think about your values: peace, family, self-perception…There’s often something that you fear you’ll be losing? Your sanity? The joy you’ve been wanting for others? Breaking a vow that you’ve made to yourself? Find out what it is, and then find a way to express yourself honestly – even if it starts with your mirror.<br /><br />It's all about taking first steps ;o)Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-85069494986055915802011-05-03T12:54:00.002-07:002011-05-08T08:29:28.047-07:00Have you taken a second today?So today I woke up well intentioned. I have this to get done. I have that thing to do. But right now I just want to relax. I want to sit back and let it all go. Ever felt that way? Outside the whole world’s rushing forward but you need to sit back and just pause. Despite the urge that you have to keep going your mind and your body collapse. Your heart and your soul start to open. Then all of the chatter is gone. All of the judgment has faded. It’s just you and your own self-reflection – erasing the noise in your head. Sometimes we just need to take it: a moment to relax and reflect. The work will be eagarly waiting - right now is your chance to just be!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-78323936163092480042011-05-03T12:54:00.001-07:002011-05-17T01:50:56.736-07:00Learning to celebrate youI’m sure we’ve all been there. You clean up the house. You wash all the dishes. You pick up some clothes from the floor … And then you catch a glimpse of yourself. Your hair is all out of place. Your eyes are only half open, but still you have errands to run. For a second you stop and you sigh, wondering how all of this happened. You flash back to when things were different – when you used to take care of yourself - when your appearance was still “put together”.<br /><br />This happens to us all the time. There’s so much you‘re doing for others, that you forget to do something for you. So the question is: how can you change that? What’s one thing that you could start doing? Painting your nails late on Friday? Buying a new scented lotion? What little ways can you celebrate you? Next time you see a window filled with flowers, what’s stopping you from going inside? Next time you stop to get groceries, what’s keeping you from that bar of dark chocolate? You’re beautiful. You’re amazing. You deserve it. Now go out there and celebrate you!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-52620133401543738992011-05-03T12:52:00.000-07:002011-05-04T11:54:59.168-07:00Taking a moment to listenWhenever you’re going through something, that’s when people come with the knowledge. You need to do this. You shouldn’t do that. We’re saying this because we all love you. Fun isn’t it? You wish it was happening now. OK maybe not. Maybe it’s annoying as hell. You could use a little less of their love. But it’s not easy is it? You love them. You know they’re seeing something. But you’re wondering how you really feel. How do you want to move forward? Maybe you have some idea, but somehow their voices get louder and sometimes you start to act out. You refuse to do what they tell you. You refuse to let them all win. But take a step back for a minute. If everyone’s saying it, then what do they see? What do you see that is different? In the end it will be your decision, but what perspective are they coming from? Sit with it for a second. Listen to what they are saying - then see how it feels for yourself? How does it match up with your values? How could it be of benefit to you? Maybe it’s just their opinion but maybe it’s a reflection of you.Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-45547907005083772032011-05-03T12:51:00.000-07:002011-05-04T09:57:10.303-07:00Who are you being right now?If you’re like me you have a few personalities. On Monday you’re the nice quiet type. On Tuesday you’re a pit bull in heels. No matter how much you try to predict it, there’s no telling who’s going to show up. The question is: who are you being right now? Do you see life as a lesson you’re learning or a conspiracy to keep you pissed off? Have you decided to let fear make you over or are you ready to get out there and try?<br /><br />So often we declare what we want but ignore who we need to become. Maybe you want to be healthy. Maybe you want to find love. But who are you being to get there? In what ways can you change your perspective? I thought about this a lot when I was in and out of the hospital. I thought about the words I was using. I could have chosen to say I was helpless – that my soul and my body were weak. To be honest, I did have those moments. But that’s why I felt how I felt. On the days when I said I was sick, that’s exactly how my body reacted. On the days that I said I felt joy, a new strength would build up deep inside me. It’s funny how all of that happens – how we feel based on who we are being. <br /><br />Think about it. Think about who you’re being right now. Are you angry? Are you happy? Are you hopeful and filled with new promise? How does that affect how you’re feeling? How can who you're being turn your darkness to light?Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-46098235064036564542011-04-29T12:18:00.000-07:002011-04-29T12:21:38.914-07:00OK...so you may end up failingI know it’s a hard pill to swallow, but a truth that you may need to hear. I mean even as I write this I’m scared. I’m petrified of how you will read this. I’m worried about making you angry. Will I say the wrong thing? Will I sound like a fraud? Will there be a nasty string of comments to follow? This is what happens when you put yourself out there. Some people like you; some people won’t. Sometimes you’ll fail; sometimes you’ll succeed. But each effort is a major step forward. <br /><br />There’s this old military expression: "No battle plan ever survives first contact with the enemy”. The first step is getting down in the trenches – maybe you’re facing an enemy – maybe you’re facing your fear of yourself. It’s hard to know what to expect. But you have to take a leap and get in there. Only then can you plot your next move – only then can you sift through the needles – only then can you slowly make progress. No matter what point you’re at - no matter how scared you are, you have to get out there and do it. You have gifts that only you have been given. You have talent that can shine a new light. There’s a chance you may fall on your face, but next time you’ll have more ammunition!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-36539286951427532802011-04-29T11:21:00.000-07:002011-04-29T16:08:22.230-07:00Exploring the handbag mentalitySo the other day my husband leaves for work. Phone – check. Wallet – check. Keys – check. He’s ready to head out the door. The whole thing's amazing to me. You can’t even tell that he's leaving. Me, on the other hand: keys, phone, jacket, sweater in purse, makeup bag, book for the train, letter I’ve been meaning to mail, a pair of shoes just in case, lotion for if my hands get dry, an extra purse just in case. You would think I was leaving forever. But it made me think. I mean to me I’m just being efficient but to my shoulder it’s a weight on my side. How does this translate to life? Think about the baggage you carry. What if this happens? What if that something goes wrong? What if I don’t have enough? What if I’m just not prepared? Think about it. Think about the weight that it puts on your shoulders. Of course anything and everything is possible but how often do you weigh yourself down? What's the cost of the burdens you carry? It’s true that we’re natural caregivers but how heavy are we making our load? No our lives are not easy. No the answers aren’t always apparent, but what things do you choose to throw in? And what things can you leave at the door?Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-66032248428354690982011-04-29T10:56:00.000-07:002011-04-30T10:00:58.333-07:00Spring is in the air - clothes are on the groundSo it’s springtime again. The birds are chirping. The sun is shining. The air settles soft on your skin … But somehow your life’s out of order: paper all over the place, a million and one things to do. You want to find ways to replenish. But the question is where do you start?<br /><br />Just thought I'd share a few thoughts:<br /><br />1. Get up and go find your purse. More than likely it’s filled with old “stuff”. Old lipsticks, old letters, old post-its of things left “to do”. Dump it all out. Yes even the crumbs from last Wednesday. Figure out what you really need in there and put the rest where you think it belongs. <br /><br />2. Make up your bed in the morning. I know it sounds crazy, but this can make a whole world of difference. Consider it your self-declaration. No matter what kind of drama goes down, you started your day with some order and no one can take that from you (unless you have a dog that likes pillows ;)<br /><br />3. Take a weekend to clean up your house. If you have children then put them to work. Give everyone their own special project. Put on some ‘ooh-work-is-fun’ music – trick yourself into enjoying it. One small caveat: if the thought of this seems overwhelming, take it one step at a time. Start with a room…a closet…a drawer. Create rewards as you start to make progress.<br /><br />4. Call up a friend to come help you. You probably have resources out there; it’s just that your vision is blurred. Instead of thinking of holes in the fabric, think about ways you can mend and repair.<br /><br />5. Stop. Not forever, just for right now. Go make yourself a cup of tea, a drink of wine, a scoop of ice cream. Give yourself time to refresh. If you’re running a marathon, you’re going to get tired. But that’s what rest stations are for.<br /><br />6. Allow yourself to move on. Winter is about to be over. How will you start off your spring? Will you hold on to toxic relationships or find new ones to feed and uplift you? Will you beat yourself over the head or give yourself credit for trying? Will you continue to embrace your old baggage or find new ways to lighten your load? If you know what you need, then go get it. Stop convincing yourself it’s impossible! That’s one thing about being a woman: you were born to make miracles happen.<br /><br />7. Clean out your emotional closet. Go outside and yell your head off. Come back in and laugh ‘til you cry. If you’re feeling unbalanced, address it. Consider what’s really important. Maybe you’re doing something you love, but why and how much are you doing it? Take a good look at yourself and your family. What energy are you putting out there? Are you angry? Are you filled with resentment or guilt? Is there something that you feel may be missing? If you are – if it is – then be honest about it. Tell the people you love how you’re feeling but ask them how they’re feeling too. They may be willing to help you. But they may be frustrated too. The only way to start shedding clutter is to get to the root of what’s wrong… what’s right…and what can be done to make progress.<br /><br />8. Take it slow and easy. Get up. Put one foot in front of the other. Notice the footprints you’re leaving but focus more on the journey ahead.<br /><br />9. Flip your complaints into actions. Instead of just sitting down and complaining, explore possibilities of what you could do. Instead of saying that you need help, ask yourself how you can get some. Instead of saying how tired you are, explore new ways to get re-inspired. Set a plan of action. Tell people what you want to accomplish. Convince yourself that there is an answer.<br /><br />10. Stop thinking so hard and have fun. Get out there. Let all of the extra weight go. In the end chaos reflects how we feel. If you want to get things back in order get out there and be what you say you've been wanting!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-69056370626267126742011-04-27T13:14:00.000-07:002011-05-02T08:54:16.684-07:00Finding peace in letting goThere are times when you really want something. You reach for it – pray for it – you imagine it etched in your mind. You did everything you possibly could. But now it is time to stand still. As you listen to your heart you feel frozen. Your mind starts to shutter and shake. It’s almost an impossible feeling – the moment where you wish you’d done more. Only now it is out of your hands. You held it. You nurtured it. You handed it over. And now it is time to let go.<br /><br />Have you ever had this feeling? You gave something everything you had and now you just need to sit back. You start hoping for the best thing to happen. It’s one of the most challenging feelings we face, but something that we have to go through. We feel it as our children get older, when we pour our heart into work or our hobbies - when we invest in the people we love. <br /><br />At times it feels quite overwhelming, but here are some things that I’ve realized:<br /><br />1. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It means finding strength in the effort you’ve given. You’ve invested in something – in someone – but it has to come alive on its own. It must be received and encountered. If you keep adding to the weight on your shoulders, it’ll only keep dragging you down. In the end, it’s not about you giving up – but making room to become more enlightened.<br /><br />2. Letting go is what gives us our balance. You are not meant to make everything happen. Sometimes it’s better to pass the baton. Your leg of the race was run admirably, now it’s time for someone else to take over. <br /><br />3. Letting go is a test of your patience. Some things take a little more sunshine. What you want may be wonderfully special, but maybe it’s not the right time. Maybe there are other things that you (or they) have to go through. Life has a funny way of getting us ready, but often the agenda’s unclear.<br /><br />4. Letting go lends a brand new perspective. Sometimes the best way to learn is to listen. Letting go allows us to do this. It’s hard to notice when we hold things too close. Sometimes it can only be clear from a distance.<br /><br />5. Letting go is about making progress. It’s about stepping out there to explore. It might not be the place that you pictured but the place that allows you to grow.Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-78326608397329802011-04-26T09:24:00.000-07:002011-04-26T19:47:28.298-07:00You have to do more than just want itYou wanted it. You hoped for it. You crossed all our fingers sideways. So why is it that it didn’t happen? How is it that you did it wrong? These questions seem terribly reasonable, but still the true factor remains: what did you do besides want it? Maybe you stepped out there. Maybe you expressed your desire. But how much did you actually do? Did you have a plan? Did you come up with brand new approaches? Did you try and then fail – then get up? Did you practice, then get tired – then heal? Think about your favorite athlete – someone at the top of their game. Of course they want to win. Of course they expect to get better. But what do they do in the meantime? How early do they wake up? How often do they practice? How fast do they get up right after they lose? Every day they do more than just want it. They build a team around themselves. They find new ways when old ways subside. They get rest when their bodies are weary. They celebrate when they have a new victory. They refocus whenever they fail. How is this different from you? How do you work to condition yourself? You say you want it. You say you need it. But what are you doing to get it? How are you building, yet pacing yourself?Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-56222527575220120802011-04-26T09:22:00.000-07:002011-04-27T19:26:43.873-07:00Creating your “village”Raising children = needing a village. The question is: what does it take to raise us? What about when your world’s caving in – when the answers seem totally hidden? Who are the people you call on? Who is it that helps keep you moving? This can be a difficult question. If you’re lucky you may have your family – your small but tight circle of friends. But think about the people outside that. What about work? What about times you need special advice? Who do you reach out to then? Just think about it for a second. Look at the different areas of your life. Who are the people who bring it full circle: when you need to laugh, when you just need a moment to cry, when you need to go out and have fun, when your life is thrown all out of whack … Who is it that lives in your village? Take a look at yourself for a moment. Do you live in a world that uplifts you? <br /><br />Who are you right now, in this very moment? What network do you have to support that? If you can’t think of one, what can you do to go build one? How can you add on to what you have now? If you’re starting a business, who are you talking to who’s starting one too or who’s had one for awhile? If you just became a parent, where can you find fellow parents? If you’re a caregiver, have you reached out to find some support – even if it’s outlets for laughter? Your old network is probably great, but maybe it’s time for expansion. If you’re trying to eat healthy, hook up with some healthy eaters – maybe you could swap a few recipes. If you just retired (or find yourself thinking about it), reach out and find others who’ve done it. Take some new steps to build your own village. These are the people who you will come home to - the people who will help raise you up!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-76197734096799865082011-04-22T14:14:00.000-07:002011-04-22T14:24:48.592-07:00Moving from change to transitionAt some point we’re all going to change. We learn how to crawl and then walk. We speak our first words. We have our first love and our very first goodbye. No matter what, life just keeps moving. But what does it all mean…to change? What about when we didn’t ask for it? What about when it makes us feel pain and regret. What about when it’s not our own choice?<br /><br />I guess the thing is that no matter what we do, change is going to happen. But there’s a difference between change and transition. Change doesn’t need our permission. It happens whether we like it or not. But transition is something quite different. Transition is when we take back our power. It’s when we decide to move forward with purpose. Whether physically or emotionally driven, it’s when we decide to reclaim and reshape our lives. Maybe you want a new job. Maybe you just got fired. Maybe you’re starting a business. Maybe you just got divorced or recently retired…or you're recovering from a serious illness. Maybe you’re trying to live a healthier lifestyle. These are all changes – some you decided on; some were decided for you. But transition takes it to the next level. It’s when you decide that from this day on I’m going to set my life back in motion. I’m going to get up, get out, and do something about it.<br /><br />But here’s the challenge: it’s hard to go through it alone. Transition doesn’t happen overnight. You’ll go through a hundred and ten deep emotions. You’ll feel elated, then sad, then depressed, then happy again. At times you will want to give up. This is something that I see every day. This is something that I go through myself. It’s a difficult, life changing process – it’s also what I support as a coach. Every step, every doubt, every victory, I help you put your life back in motion so that you can see the beauty of YOU! Call today for a free consultation: 347-687-8784 or visit www.innersparkcoaching.comKeisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-27486111919266598312011-04-21T09:54:00.000-07:002011-04-21T12:07:20.969-07:00So when does it start being easy?As women we are full of ambition. We always want the best for our families. We try to do the best for ourselves. At times, it isn’t easy. But still we continue to strive. We often make difficult choices, but we do it with our head to the sky. So when does it stop being hard? When do things start to shift and slow down? I think about this a lot. In fact, I just had a conversation about it: all the bills that keep coming – all the emergencies that keep popping up. You start to ask yourself, "What’s going on?" But today, my sister shared something with me – something that her husband asked her, when she questioned why things are so hard: “When's the last time you took the easy road?” Think about it. Think about what you choose in life. Think about the things that you choose to take on – taking care of your kids, caring for your parents as they get older, climbing the ranks in your job – maybe even starting a company. How often do you choose the easy road? How often do you say “I can’t do this” (and actually stop and not do it ;). Yes sometimes we question ourselves. Of course we have moments of doubt, but for the most part we make some tough choices, but we make them because they’re important. We want our kids to have opportunities - we want to be happy at work (and make money). We want to have brand new experiences. Even if it means sacrificing, we want the best for ourselves and our family.<br /><br />This is all a part of our makeup. We are strong and resourceful. We are caring and creative, and compassionate. And no, none of that makes anything easy. In fact it makes it quite hard. But in the end it’s a choice that we’ve made. It’s the choice of being an ambitious and talented woman. And that's something that we can be proud of!Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2401760551357743125.post-88815475750983556892011-04-18T14:22:00.000-07:002011-04-21T12:49:22.457-07:00So what is this "me time" they speak of?Is “me time” - at all - even possible or is it part of how we wish things could be? <br /><br />Here are a few possibilities:<br /><br />1. “Me time” is totally possible; it’s just to what degree, when, and how often. I mean, even if it’s 4 in the morning, you can probably sneak off to the shower. You can stand there without interruptions and release all of the stress from your mind. (Now, if you have 5 kids who are very light sleepers, maybe it’s on to plan B.) Maybe it happens at the end of the day. You're on your way to pick up the kids. You park your car 10 blocks away. Throw on some headphones. Turn up the music full blast. Walk slow for the last 15 minutes. Have a moment before the chaos begins. When you do pick them up, spend some time. Share some stories as you walk to the car. Use it as a chance to connect.<br /><br />2. Maybe “me time” is more like small moments. You’re running your kids to soccer. Your work is piling up on your desk. You're a caregiver between doctor's visits. At this point it’s more about crunch time. But here’s the thing: Maybe you can’t make that run to the spa. Maybe you just don't have time for vacation. But there is time for small possibilities. Step outside for a second. You may literally have just a second. Take a deep breath in and then out. Then quickly throw a smile on your face. Instant revival for the journey ahead.<br /><br />3. You don’t have to do “me time” alone. Even if you’re with other people, you can still bring yourself to the table. Jump in the conversation. Tell a funny story you forgot to tell earlier. For dinner make your favorite dessert. There are ways to reflect who you are, while sharing your experiences with others. You can make “me time” a family affair. Make a great big family collage – where each person wants to go, what they want to do, the expression they would have on their face.<br /><br />4. “Me time” doesn’t have to be “real”. Find a postcard of your dream destination. Hang it right up on your wall. Download the sound of steel drums on your phone. When you get home, make yourself a coconut smoothie. Create a week filled with mini staycations.<br /><br />5. In the end “me time” is about making choices. It’s about being fun and creative. Don’t focus so much on ideal, but on the moments that allow you to flow.Keisha Ogbuokirihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14597945695879545437noreply@blogger.com0